So, the single life isnt appealing anymore? Youre finally ready to find that person you want to share your moments with and start a new, fulfilling relationship?
Maybe Im getting ahead of myself and thats not the case, at all.Fall is here and so is cuddling season, and you just want someone to cuddle with? I understand.
Whatever your reason may be, youhave an urge to start dating and you want to see whats out there and what the world has to romantically offer you.
If these three things happen on the first date, save your time and dont plan a second.
1. If you track how much time has gone by, its time to go.
Ive actually been that chick thats had a friend call me and enlighten me with some massive, imaginary, widely-vague incident that has gone down that requests my immediate attention.
I go through all the motions answering the phone in bewilderment (even though I texted them to call me), making facial expressions of complete shock to the made-up story thats being whipped up and last but not least, bid farewell to my date.Ive done this twice.
The first guy was awkwardly playing footsies with me and I was checking my watch literally every five minutes until I reached the 30-minute mark of the date and physically couldnt stand one more foot hug.
The second guy put incredible amounts of thought behind every answer. He took 10 minutes to answer my simple, What do you like to eat? and then he changed his answer every time after apologizing for changing his answer. Needless to say, I was ready to go.
These guys werent bad people, but if Im uncomfortable, annoyed or cant be in an environment where I can have a conversation then its probably a blueprint for whats coming.
A first date should be exciting and a platform for learning about one another, not trying to see how long you can go without checking the time.
2. If its a one-way conversation theres no way you can have a second date.
Some of my best first dates have been with people who I can have great conversations with. I love to talk, the only time Im breathing is when Im talking.
Im guilty of sometimes hogging the microphone during first dates, but for me thats a good sign; its probably because I like you a lot and just want to talk about everything. However, as much as I like the sound of my own voice, I would also like it to be a two-way conversation.
Its cool if both people are talking a lot, as long as theyre talking. Otherwise, Im going to feel like Im holding an interview; some of my bad dates have actually gone that route. Me: What do you like to eat? Him: Italian. Me: Awesome. If you had all the money in the world, where would you go vacation? Him: Colorado.
Theres only so many questions I can ask before feeling awkward. It goes the other way too, though.
If the guy doesnt let you let you squeeze a word its time to go. Hearing someone brag about themselves is a complete turnoff and it just goes to show that theyll probably more worried about themselves in the relationship than you.
3. If you can tell from the first date that you are on two different pages, leave like yesterday.
The first date is always a good way to get a glimpse of what the other person wants. You dont have to figure out exactly what they want out of this potential relationship, but you should try to get an idea.
This is important because he could be looking for a wife and you mightve just gotten out of a long-term relationship and want something casual, or vice-versa.
If you have this conversation you can decide for yourself if the relationship is something you want to be part of, or if its something you might have to walk away from before it gets any more serious.
Its important be able to go on dates, or spend time with someone you are considering being in your life, regardless of your intentions. Its good to get out there and meet new people, learn how to open up and just practice the dating routine. But, if you dont like you prospects, call it quits.
Its like they say: Better alone than with bad company.
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